counseling for Relationship stress and codependency
“I have always felt responsible for others. Now I have a place for someone to care for me. ”
To be honest, your relationships have been draining you for a while now.
You feel stuck in a repeating pattern and you don’t know why. Resentment, insecurity, jealousy, comparison, feeling undervalued, disappointed... You don’t know if it’s you, or if you just keep attracting the wrong kind of people, but you just know you’re tired of this pattern.
For as long as you can remember, you’ve always put others ahead of yourself. You’re used to being “the helper” in the relationship, and you’re scared that if others saw the parts of you that feel messy, they wouldn’t stick around. This leaves you feeling unseen and resentful in more relationships than you'd like to admit.
The energy it takes to always be second-guessing yourself is exhausting. You are constantly looking for the approval of others to feel ok about yourself, thinking "I wonder what they are thinking about me right now? Am I ok? Am I enough?" Your friends try to encourage you, but you feel like sometimes you need validation too much from them.
counseling for codependency and relationship stress in tacoma, wa
My name is Kate Hagborg, LMHC, and I provide counseling for women in Tacoma, WA to help you feel more confident, alive, and fulfilled in your relationships—with people, with your spirituality, and most importantly with yourself.
Relationships can be the greatest source of joy in our lives, but also our greatest places of wounding. Together, we can deconstruct the patterns you are experiencing in your relationships and help you heal at the source so that things can change for the better.
Most importantly, we will do this with immense compassion and help you learn to love yourself truly and deeply, first and foremost. We will help you learn to understand your emotions and how they are there to instruct you on how to get your needs met in relationships.
I will help you evaluate where your boundaries need a tune-up so that you don’t have to feel overwhelmed all the time. And we will help you understand the qualities of the kinds of safe and mutual relationships you want to build on going forward.
The therapeutic relationship is a powerful place to practice all these skills and more in a safe way. If you are ready to bring find your authentic self and experience relationships that are balanced and vulnerable, give me a call today to see if we’d be a good fit.